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On Vox: I Asked For Some Advice

My soon-to-be (better get used to saying it...) husband is of the belief that the honeymoon doesn't last, but if two people are intentional about it, things keep getting better and better. (The belief that love can start off strong and grow bigger and better instead of peaking and fading away is just one of the many reasons I love him).

I asked someone I greatly respect to share with me her thoughts about not only keeping love alive in a relationship, but nurturing and growing it. She gave me this. I think it's perfect. And is just as applicable to any relationship you want to grow.

How To Grow A Conscious R elationship

First, love yourself.

Ask yourself: What do I most want? 
Ask the people close to you: What do you most want? 

Appreciate yourself and your loved ones out loud at least every hour. 

Tell the truth always and all ways. 

Remember that the past is the past. It's doesn't have to color your present or future.

Treat yourself to lots of alone time

Change a routine. Any routine. 

Do what you say you're going to do. Don't do what you say you're not going to do. 

Remember that love is the dance of two open spaces who celebrate each other and that true love can only exist between absolute equals.




Breathe in love for yourself. Breathe out love for everyone around you. 

Feel all your feelings. Give those around you room to feel all of theirs. 

Celebrate yourself for having created everything in your life just the way it is. 
Celebrate yourself for being willing to change it.

Touch the people you love as often as you can. 

Ask yourself, am I honoring my true essence in this moment? Am I honoring the essences of my loved ones?

Feel in your own heart the kind of love you want to receive from others. 

Remember that breath and love are the two sure cures for fear.

If you're inclined to think that was too Northern California hippy chick mumbo jumbo, check out with the wisdom and humor in "10 Ways To Divorce Proof Your Marriage by the very funny husband and wife Jason Jones and Samantha Bee from "The Daily Show". They say essentially the same thing, and each of their 10 things is a gem.

Originally posted on patty.vox.com